If you spend any time around some corners of the internet, articles with titles like “17 Moves That Drive ALL Women Wild” abound. They make it sound like all women desire the same thing, when in reality it’s all about individual preferences. In fact, there are plenty of things people commonly think women like in the bedroom, but actually don’t. Hey, you know what happens when you just assume something about another person.

That said, a good bit of misinformation about women and sex is still out there. All those stereotypes about size or being able to go all night are just that, stereotypes. Read on to learn more about the things that not all women want in bed.

1-Lasting *Forever* In Bed

Look, at some point it’s just chafing. For some women, intercourse that lasts too long is uncomfortable, or maybe even painful, as relationship counselor Matty Silver explained in The Sydney Morning Herald. The idea of lasting all night is really not everyone’s idea of a good time.

2-Having A Large… Eggplant

There’s no one ideal size for everybody. In fact, women have all sorts of differing opinions about penis size, as explained in Thought Catalogue. Not everyone prefers the larger-than-average ones on a partner.

3… Surprises

Look. Don’t just try to go in the backdoor without any prior discussion, preparation, or lube, as noted in Metro. Plenty of women enjoy anal sex, but it’s not something you spring on a new partner without previous discussion. It’s always better to double-check before enjoying this particular activity.

4-Forgoing The Condom

Just don’t do this. The many excuses not to wear a condom are pretty off-putting, as noted in Bustle. It’s kinder (and sexier) to respect the partner’s desire for protection.

5-Skipping Lube

Really, lube can be kind of transformative for sex. And women generally feel positively about lube, as a study in the Journal Of Sexual Medicine found. It’s an extra step, sure, but a little slip can make the whole process more pleasant.